Motherhood on the road

I recently shared in my monthly newsletter that parenting teens and parenting toddlers may not be as different as we think. When your kids were little and struggled to fall asleep, you grabbed the keys and drove around town to lure them into dreamland.

 

Recently, when one of my older kids was struggling with friendships and mood swings (all things preteen), I used the same parenting strategy: I grabbed the keys and took her for a drive.

 

But I’m not the only one who values a good car ride in the repertoire of tools in the mom tool belt. The value of time spent on the road with your kids came up recently with my new friend and fellow writer, Heather Cruz, author of Grace for Every Mom. I asked her to share with us the grace given to our families when we find unique ways Read more

Kruse Foster Care Family Photo

How Investing in Others Creates Family

 

*This foster care journey was originally published in Becky Bereford’s Brave Women Series. You can access the full story on her website at beckyberesford.com.

 

Stay. That’s the word I got from God after receiving the publishing company acceptance letter—my first potential job in my field of study. The pay would be a promotion from my current gig at the Boys and Girls Club Teen Center.

Stay—an uncomfortable word for someone like me. Driven by to-do lists and accomplishments, I was a 23-year-old recent grad who wanted to change the world yet often let the world define me by my resume—by what was, or more acutely, what wasn’t yet on it.

Surprisingly, I obeyed. Without knowing the exact reason, I dialed the number and turned down the job offer. I presumed my time wasn’t over with these teens just yet.

Staying meant more late evenings befriending teenagers, learning all the greatest ‘70s Wii Rock Band songs, helping students with homework, and running dodgeball games in the gym. I prayed my time with the teens would instill in them a sense of worth, almost all of whom had experienced much more pain and hardship than I could confess in my ten years their senior.

 

A few months passed and then two girls walked through those club doors whom, in hindsight, I realize were the reason for God’s instruction to “stay.” Their group home mom introduced them to me as Nicole and Natalie Brown, twins about to turn 14. But I was too busy doubting they would like it here to remember much else about the conversation. Their similar faces seemed to stonewall me—this young, perhaps naïve woman who stood before them in her Boys and Girls Club polo.

 

I would later learn…

 

*Click the button below to read my family’s full foster care story: 

 

Watching Elf

Exercising faith in a world full of cynics: what Buddy the Elf teaches us about the gospel

 

Though I normally write about Disney and the gospel, this one makes it worth deviating from the norm. Disney-produced or not, this Jon Favreau-directed film became a Christmastime classic in my house almost twenty years ago. Since it’s considered newer to the repertoire of classic must-see Christmas movies, it’s hard to believe it’s been around that long. Along with so many others, the joy-filled, child-like antics of Buddy, the beloved giant green and yellow elf, will probably be featured on our screen sometimes after the turkey dinner on Thursday and before the tryptophan coma kicks in.

But…have you ever thought of it as a messenger of the gospel?!

You know the story. Starring Will Farrell as the main character, the movie, Elf depicts Read more

Rearview mirror mama child

Summertime Family Reentry and the Importance of Practicing Mercy in the Home

 

ALL IS GRACE. That was my theme phrase for the new year, and this week I needed a reminder to keep going. The transition from May to June is a test of a mom’s true understanding and implementation of grace. May feels like falling off the wheel, losing steam, survival mode, and good intentions gone to the wayside. June feels like a fresh start, a new kind of chaos, a breath of fresh air, summer fun.

 

If I’m being honest, a big regret I have is Read more

Housewife Title

Mom-Life in a Pandemic + That’s Just Every Day!

 

I thought my life was going to dramatically change this year. My youngest was heading off to kindergarten, and I was going to have 35 hours of uninterrupted single-minded brain activity a week where once I had zero. With all this newfound brain space (plus the reinstallation of my personal bubble), I was envisioning doing all the things I hadn’t done with my life over the last decade and dedicating that time and space to something other than wiping noses, pulling teeth, coordinating playdates, and warding off the World War III of sibling rivalry.

 

My self-diagnosed adult Read more

“To Seek and To Save”

Advent 2019

 

As one of the fullest and most complete encounters of Jesus’s life, my good friend Jenni challenged me to read the entire Book of Luke this Advent season. This particular Gospel also includes the most commonly recited version of Jesus’s birth story. I thought, why not and began by reading the brief description given in my childhood Bible preceding the opening paragraphs of Luke. What I found there were eight little words that cut right to my core and are becoming my theme for the entire Advent season. These eight words are emboldening me to come off survival mode, turn off auto-pilot that becomes “just getting through the season,” and embrace the choice to cherish an ever-deepening understanding of what the Christmas and Advent season is all about.

 

I’ll get to what those eight powerful words were here in a moment, but let me start with this: How many of you feel like you already messed up Advent season?! I mean come on, I left Thanksgiving early to participate in the Black Friday (ahem, Thursday) shenanigans at Target. Along with my brother and some of my cousins, we giddily walked out of the housewares haven with a red cartful of shopping bags and a 55-inch flat-screen lodged diagonally like a Keep Reading

 

IF THERE’S ONE LANGUAGE OUR KIDS KNOW, IT’S THE LANGUAGE OF PRINCESSES & PIRATES.

 

The writers, producers and artists of Disney have often been heralded the greatest storytellers of modern times, and rightly so: the Walt Disney Company is currently worth anywhere between $100-150 billion. Kids all over America (and some places around the world) are absorbed in Disney culture. It’s not hard to imagine a child wrapping up in her favorite blanket, the one with a few well-known princesses on it before listening to her favorite Disney-themed bedtime book. Or it wouldn’t be hard to picture a child’s playroom where more than one set of big black ears can be found. Young ones and their caregivers who have been to a Disney theme park consider it one of their most memorable vacations. Even for those who haven’t yet been, Disney is on their toothbrushes, their backpacks and even the snacks their parents bring home from the grocery store.

 

Every time a child sees their favorite Disney character, they are reminded of the storyline and adventure that character journeyed through. But what they don’t always realize (for young and old people alike) is why these stories speak so strongly to their hearts. The truth is, we were made for these stories. These are stories not just of fairytale, but of redemption.

 

In the last two decades specifically, Disney has progressed toward more complex characters and storylines. Take Queen Elsa from Frozen, for example. One could argue whether she is the protagonist or the antagonist of this story. Isn’t this the story of the human experience? She represents the struggle of divine proportions that is going on between our flesh and our spirit.

 

While the Bible acutely depicts this fallen nature of every human life, it also portrays the loving nature of our creator God, the journey of God’s people in all their victories and failures, and the unfolding of God’s big, redemptive plan through His Son Jesus Christ. Jesus of Nazareth comes in the most unexpected of ways, even though He was spoken of in the very beginning. It is the greatest story ever told. At the pinnacle of this greatest story ever told is the Gospel: the greatest love story to ever exist.

 

Using the Bible as our model, we find that the way Jesus taught His disciples most often was through parables. He used illustrations that the people He was talking to were already familiar with: stories about farmers and gardeners and keeping lamps burning. He paralleled His Father’s love with the great love of an earthly father to a prodigal son. The list goes on. God knew that the people were more likely to understand the concepts of God and the workings of God through their everyday context.

 

So, why not utilize the greatest icon in storytelling—Walt Disney’s team of animators and storytellers—to communicate these deep Biblical truths? These stories have been pointing toward the Gospel in powerful ways for decades: through tales of getting lost on the journey and found into a much grander plan than the character could have dreamt up in his or her own finite wit. In the last two decades, gospel-lending messages are increasingly portrayed through Disney’s colorful stories of struggle and mighty tales of redemption. Modern-day parables, if you will.

 

Finding Nemo, for example, is a beautifully animated tale about a school of fish riding a magic school bus (insert an enthusiastic stingray in place of the red-headed, eccentrically dressed nut). It’s a menagerie of God’s creation of aquatic life set off the coast of Oceana, and it’s a larger-than-life adventure of a clown fish in search of his lost son. But beneath the cuteness of the story is a tale of a kind of love so powerful and so true that its original source can only be traced back to our heavenly Father. Specifically, the story of Nemo and his father Marlin mirrors the experience of the prodigal son and his father’s unabashed love for him found in Luke 15.

 

“Filmmaking communicates deep truths, whether or not the events really took place”

-Nate Scoggins, actor

 

Cinema is one of the most influential and strategic tools we have to share the gospel in our culture. The ultimate goal of Disney Gospels is that extracting parables from Disney movies would serve as a useful training tool in helping people, big and small, learn to find the God-truths in everything they view and encounter throughout life. I am passionate about sharing this powerful lens through which the Gospel can be seen and experienced in a new way.

 

Think about this: Seeing the truth of God when the world around you is seemingly telling you a much different story is not an easy task. It can be difficult to rectify in our hearts the disparity between what we see and hear in the news or in our everyday life with what God says is true—a truth perhaps not yet fully realized. But having the scales removed from our eyes and seeing everything through the lens of God’s great story of love and grace is life-giving. You can subscribe HERE to go on this truth-seeking, sight-restoring and life-giving journey with me.